What is the first thing to do after a break-up?

Posted: February 24, 2013 in Love, Motivation
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photo courtesy: davidandjinnilyn.com

It is always hard to have a break-up. The word itself tells why. Whether a good break-up or a bad break-up, it can leave an ugly scar so often hard to remove. But be of good cheer, because in the very act of death, birthing comes after. A break-up pave a way for new relationship, sprout a new lush growth of wisdom and prepares a way for a colorful parade of experience.

If most people agree that the first thing to do after a break-up is to move on, I honestly believe it should be the last. Believe me. If you are going to do it right away, you are only bound to forget a painful experience but you will never learn to accept that the love you once beautifully felt is a love that has gone. For when a situation identifiable to your previous relationship presents itself, it will only drive you to remember the past with bitterness and resentments. You really do not need to forget. What you need is to heal. You will need plenty of time for it to recuperate. Healing is the first step to move on from a break-up.

How does someone start to heal?

I believe that healing should first start from within. It must start by recognizing how hurt the heart has been and to yield to its natural tendency to grieve. My friends, it is okay to cry. It is absolutely right to allow your eyes to burst forth those precious tears. Let your heart lament for something that has been loss. But when you give your heart that independence, remind your heart as well that crying is only for a night and tomorrow a bright and shining sun will greet you anew. You must learn to keep your joy. Don’t let your heart run berserk for the heart has its own mind. It can go reckless. Hurting you and hurting those who truly love and cares for you. Remember, we all get scared. And this scar teaches us jaded pieces of affluent lessons we can keep to ourselves and share to others.

After grieving, you are now ready for the final step of healing. This is a step we so often bypass. Yet this is also the step that is the only key to remove all the heartaches in our heart. This is acceptance. Acceptance is a beautiful thing. It may be not easy. But easy or not, you need to face it anyway. It is the knowledge that something good may never be the same anymore. Only when you learn to truly accept the changes will you learn to welcome the dawn of the new beginning. Only through acceptance, will you mug up to log-for recent opportunities to love again and to be truly loved back. You don’t want to miss the vast chances life has to offer. Love yourself and get it over with. The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.

Imagine yourself like a kid who stumbled on the dirt. Bring it up. Dust it off. And lightly slap it on its butt and lovingly whisper to its ear, “That’s enough crying, now run and move on.”

Inspire yourself that when everything falls apart then very soon, everything will be put back together.

May you learn to keep your JOY. Good Luck. 

  1. Dane Gedeon says:

    I enjoy the efforts you have put in this, thank you for all the great articles.

  2. […] months ago, I wrote an article describing how you can move on from a break-up. If you have read it, you might have realized that the reason why a lot of people are still hurting […]

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