We have heard and read so many things about love.
It is interesting for me how we have gone into writing so many songs and poems about love yet there are still a lot of relationships out there that has quenched their love.
Many of you became miserable. Became hateful. Doubtful to love itself. And shun yourselves even to the single idea of falling in love.
Why is that? Maybe knowing the 4 kinds of love will help you find the answer to the question for yourself.
1. Baby Love:
I would like to ask you to look at the baby. A baby is cute, isn’t it? We like the baby so much when they smile and chuckle. But when they cry in the wee hours of the night, it seems like a disaster has fallen your house.
What does a baby do? A baby likes you when you give them something. They cry when you don’t. That’s tantrums all over. Teenagers and even adults who think like a teenagers falls into this trap a lot. They think they are in love to the person because he/she is cute.
Very sadly, this is where a lot of you can find and relate yourselves from. You are in a baby love. It will not get anywhere. This relationship will only demand you to give and give and give.
It will only demand you to give more just so you could feel that you are valued.
2. Horse-trading Love:
Let me make a radical statement. All men and women are whores. All men and women are hookers. All men and women are for a pay. All men and women are gold-diggers.
In this kind of love – YES. This is not really love. This is sheer bargaining.
In this kind of love, you give in order to get something. As some of you in this relationship say, “No commitment, no strings-attached”. Fuck buddies as a name you call it. Usually, persons in this kind of love are those who have been hurt much. They are those who need help and healing. Most bruised and most wounded.
But if they truly love, they are those who can love deeply and truly.
3. Real Love:
This kind of love is the one that springs from the inmost of your being. This is not based on the kind of things you get from the outside. This is simply just you.
You give this love because it is who you are. And to withhold this love means punishing yourself. You do not require from anything or anyone. It is just who you are. Period.
4. Pure Spirit Love:
This is a love of a Saint. But this is not hard to give. Anyone has the ability to give this as long as you open yourself. In this kind of love you become magnanimous.
You love even if it hurts. It hurts not because you are being taken advantage off but because to love this way is to give yourself to the benefit of all. You sacrifice to bring forth common good. Such love is the love of Jesus, Mother Teresa or even the love of the mother to her children.
The question is where are you in these four kinds of love? Are you harnessing the full potential of love?
The truth is unless you know which love you are in, you will never know if you are in perfect alignment of your nature. To become love yourself.