Archive for August, 2013

  1. Let go of the things that do not serve you anymore. Example: check your closet then mark those that you no longer use. Give it away. Your closet will do look bare but what’s left are the things you often use anyway. The next thing you know, it will be full again.

  2. There are things that you do that are inconsequential in nature. Remember, it’s the motive that matters and not the particulars.

  3. Make an accounting of your negative thoughts. Example: use a bean and a cup. Every time you thought of negative thoughts, throw a bean in the cup. Check at the end of the day how many negative thoughts you made. It will surely change your behavior.

  4. In every good thing that happens to you. Do a good thing for others. The acts of gratitude must be conscious and planned, not just random and retroactive.
  5. Take care of the people who take care of you.

  6. Always say ‘Thank you”.

  7. There are many roads to the mountain’s summit, but the view from the top is the same.
  8. There is no failure only a delay in results. Don’t ever dismiss or nullify good, positive energy because you are disappointed. Acquire the attitude.

  9. Patience is Power. Keep on keeping on. One of the most causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by temporary defeat. Don’t stop three feet from the Gold. Go back and dig some more.

  10. Sometimes, the only way for you to know that you don’t need what you want is for you to have it.

  11. When everything falls apart, it is a good sign that everything is about to come together. In the very act of birthing, we get a lesson in life. In life, chaos often comes to completion. When you recognize this pattern, you rejoice when everything breaks down; you must be getting close to the finish line.

  12. When you welcome problems in your life, your problems will go away. But when you avoid it, the more it will stay. The point is not really to expect problems to come in everything that you do. It is about you to be ready when it pays a visit. Problem is an inevitable reality of a human life. No matter what you do and how good you are in handling things it will surely come. Problems refine processes, sharpens your wit, improves management skills, calls for sound decision making. This is because problems are part of an experience, and an experience teaches us many great things that helps us creatively deal with our circumstances. However, if everytime a problem presents us a situation to act upon even sparingly and do not face it like a man, it never gets to be resolved. It remains there until you face it with courage.
  13. Learn leadership, marketing, strategy, and accounting. Always check your finances and make your money grow for you. Find ways how you can be different from the competition or how to stand out. Be your own mogul.
  14. You must know where you want your company to go. Some calls this vision, goal, objectives etc, but really no matter how you are going to call it, the need of knowing it is equally important of communicating these to people under you. Unless you are clear to your subordinates where you want them to go, they wouldn’t know what to do or what to anticipate.

  15. Life is short and death is sure. Hence, identify your long-term goals. However, life is also a series of events, therefore do not allow temporary setbacks affect your long-term goals. What you can do otherwise is to seize the moment of learning from them.
  16. God is in control. When your universe is crumbling left and right and you don’t understand – pray. When you know that God is with you; you don’t really need to understand, you only need to have faith. Your biggest ascents come on the heels of your biggest mistakes.

  17. Being an entrepreneur, you are not driven by motives alone, but by the motivation of fulfilling a deep, deep desire.
  18. If the focus is on failure, fall is inevitable. Some of us has a wrong thinking. It is that when something positive happens, we start to worry of what negative events could possibly come after. Yes sure we experience failures in life. Some are big and some are small. Regardless of size, they should only occupy a short duration in our lives. Don’t dwell on it. The key is a few simple steps: know how you failed, learn from it, accept it then move on. Something good that happen can only get even better. Now that’s the focus.
  19. You don’t always get what you want but you always get what you vibrate. The universe is very obedient. Remove the doubt. In other words, if you remain focus in your dreams with utmost faith it will surely come to pass.
  20. There are so many lessons and insights in the world that we already know all along. But we need an opportunity for one person to tell it to us so we hear and implement it in our lives. I call this as validation.
  21. Indeed life is a test. You really do not fail as someone being graded and marked for life. You only need to take a retake. You fail when you quit your life. But as long as you’re alive, you always have a chance to pass the test. The reason why we experience the same problem over and over again is because we flunked the test – that’s your retake. Check yourself, an in depth review does the help.

  22. When somebody tells you that they had a good feeling after talking to you as a compliment, what they really mean is that you made them raised their dial to match yours. I promise when you set your dial and lock it in 99.5 you will attract 99.5.

  23. Never fret in occasions when the darkness of the storm envelopes your life. God is present in it, visiting us, counseling us and instructing us in the night. Listen to His thoughts and meditate on His word.
  24. The harder you fall, the harder you bounce back. You have to be weakened first that you may be strengthened.

  25. Peace is not the absence of affliction, but the presence of God.

  26. Fear is a dead end, but faith opens the door for God. Fear binds you and limit you from your potential. It is alright to be afraid but never fear, because when God ask you to do something, He will equipped you to do it.

  27. Don’t let people turn you to be a person you are not by how unfairly you were treated by them. Let them hate and bash all they want. Always hold your ground and let God judge them someday.
photo credit: google

photo credit: google

Dear Frenie,

For the past two years life has been unkind with you. You lose your business and pretty much all your finances, your flourishing real-estate career and the many wonderful plans you wish to fulfill. But nothing hurts you most than those people whom you helped and loved before had slowly shunned their doors when you need them most. Life throws enormous challenges at you, hardships that are beyond your imagination. At the heights of your career, where all plans are ready to be launched; life subdued your strength. Brought you fear, the kind that which you have never met before. Cloaked your visions with darkness of lamentations & despairs. You yelled out to God but you heard no word at all. Your life was silent but was not peaceful. You began to ask your purpose, questioned your existence & doubted your ability. You tried hard to bounce back, but found no one cushioning your feet just so you could lift your head an inch higher & begin to breathe. As shameful as it is to admit, but you nearly took your life twice. With so much restraint & patience, you swallowed the bitter words of blame & persecution of the friends you cradled & fed before. They took no respite to crucify you many times over, but you remained still & never took matters into your hands. I know it was a huge thing to sacrifice your own human feeling nonetheless, you have learned the biggest favor you could give yourself is to forgive your enemies.

I am so proud of you. God knows how hard that decision to give up your pride, yet you did it with utmost obedience. It was during that time, when your world crumbles down; you learned the ominous peace of God.

At the time when the sun parched-dry your hope, at the time when the storm shook your very core. You have never given up your faith to the Father and yourself. You learned how it is to be truly human & alive, that hardships will always be part of it. You understood that despite of the many reasons to be mad at God, you could still trust Him & surrender your will to Him. I have heard every little & big prayers you whispered in your room. I witnessed every ebb of tears falling from your eyes. I have seen how you knelled down and prayed.

I want to assure you that this is not the end of you; that the best is just about to come; that what you’ve been through were all testing the strengths of your faith; that sometimes, a reality that your enemies can catapult you higher that your friends can happen in your life.

Indeed there are countless of things to thank about. The experience that refined you as a person now brought you a gargantuan wisdom of life.

I urge you to let go of the things that do not serve you anymore. I implore you to use your talents & God ordained gifts. I encourage you to engrave every piece of wisdom you learned in the tablets of your mind. And above all, I want you to remember that you are a child of God and you are His powerful champion.

Wipe your tears; allow your true light to shine on every dark corners of your life. Forgive yourself for the poor choices you made. Thank yourself for holding on to your convictions. Love yourself profoundly. Congratulate yourself for not becoming a person you are not by how you were unfairly treated by others. Put your hand in your chest, feel the beating of your heart & know that you are alive. And because you are alive, the power to rise again is within you.

As you move along in this life’s journey, I encourage you to bring no unnecessary loads. Loads of bitterness, resentments & guilt. Walk through this corridor of darkness & see that the end of the road offers you your intense blinding light of both purpose and power.

Never surrender your dreams to the noisy negatives of your past. Nurture the vision you want to achieve and offer it to God for his Divine providence. And with your light and power, shine to those who are lost and forgotten.

Forget not to recall those people who were kind to you. Cherish those individuals who understood & inspired you. Repay them with the same kindness ten times over. Be with them when life turn tables, when they are in need and you have the ability to give. Know that every effort you do is a seed. That one day, every seed you sow shall become a peaceable gift from above.

Take heart and never give up. The Lord will one day rain down upon you His abundance & grace. Be joyful for the Lord listens to your prayers & the earnest desires of your heart will soon unfold right before your eyes. Be confident that He has your life and future in the palm of His hand. He is saving you the best. Believe that the Lord walks with you side by side as you conquer the world once more.

In everything you do, give Him back all the glory. The many tears you shed & the countless sleepless night you endured cannot be compared to the glory that will be given you.

Be strong and take courage. Do not fear and be dismayed for the Lord will go before you and His light will show you the way. God loves you and Happy Happy Birthday.

Always with Love,

Your Spirit & Soul

photo credit: google

photo credit: google

 

About two years ago, a month before my birthday I went for a 2 day trip in Cagayan de Oro City. I stayed in a posh hotel & enjoyed my “me time”. Even if my body is enjoying, I have this strange feeling inside that something is lacking. I honestly thought that my being single for almost 4 years was causing my heart to yearn. We all feel it randomly, right? Especially during rare times when you really got to sit and chat with your inner self and it was very timely that friends introduced me to some single people as they hope I’d date one of them. I did have an evening with someone smart and special encounters but I easily quite figured out that it wasn’t what I wanted. In fact, I didn’t need a relationship at all.

After splurging & touring around CDO I decided to cut my short vacation. I headed home for a 6 hour trip from CDO. My usual eureka moment happens in a bus so I decided to take a bus going home. I was lucky because the bus wasn’t filled with passengers and now I could not only have a restful trip but a moment of moving reflection as well.

I sat down while the bus slowly starts to move & as I look at the view in my window, I found myself beginning to pray. I heard myself thanking God for blessing me with many temporal things & career achievements. My prayer goes on and on while watching the passing view outside as if looking to a moving picture of my past. It was both a humbling & solemn moment for the soul.

After 2 hours, we stopped by a bus terminal of some alien place. I ate some cookies I bought & once again look outside the window. My attention was suddenly caught by two young little children, a boy and a girl sitting in the corner of the unpaved road. I can say that the boy is older than the girl, must be her younger sister.

 

If you don’t like dirty looking children then they’re not the most encouraging sight to see because they do not only have old, rugged filthy clothes but dusty hair & dark scaly skin as well. Being a person who pampers my skin well, I can say that those were skin that might have not been touched by soaps for years. The little girl was relentlessly crying and what his brother did touch me profoundly inside. Her brother went closer to her sister & slowly rubbed her sisters back trying to comfort her & asking her to settle down. It was a very human scenario right there in front of me as if a scene in a film played within the four corners of the bus window. I am used to seeing siblings rubbing each other’s back to show comfort but that scene just registered to me prodigiously different. I am also a brother of my two beautiful sisters and I surely would do the same thing to them.

I suddenly recalled that I still have about Php800 of cash left in my pocket that I won’t probably need anymore since I would be home in the next 4 hours. My spirit compelled me to give them Php500. If I only have time I could have probably bought slippers for them as they were just barefooted. I turned to the window again, and this time I saw a not so old man wearing old clothes, with a backpack made from an old overused sack of rice on his back & a bolo on his side. I knew that he is the father of these little children. On his left shoulder he hangs a sack filled with vegetables. I understood that the man could be a farmer in the uplands & went to the market to sell his harvest. I am just not sure if that’s all the vegetables left for the day or if he hadn’t sold anything yet. I continued observing them and then the father slipped his hands inside his right pocket and handed over a 1 peso coin to the little girl leaning towards her and asking her to stop crying.

I was moved and for just a short while I began asking myself, how could I be so calloused all these time. I spent left & right, ate in an expensive restaurant, left without even finishing my meal and yet I missed the opportunity of giving back. Something I used to do when I still have less and now that I am more than capable, I have already forgotten to share. My mind was in a battle in the next seconds in deciding if I’ll go down and hand over the money but I also got a lot of “what ifs” in my mind. One of my crazy “what ifs” are what if the man will be offended and strike me with his bolo, what if I will need the money in the next few hours of the trip. When I have finally decided to give it, the bus slowly starts to move. Honestly, I could still ask the driver to stop for a while but another what ifs starts to play in my mind; what if my offer of help will be rejected and the passengers in the bus will see me. I did nothing after this what ifs, until the bus finally accelerated far away from that old father and his two little children.

 

In the bus, I told myself that I have missed that opportunity. And a very deep loneliness covered me without me noticing that I was already teary-eyed. I wasn’t sure if that was due to me not giving anything what I was asked to give or that overwhelming feeling of humility. In prayer, I told the Lord; “God I missed you so much. I ask you that whatever next blessing I am supposed to receive from you, you’ll give it to those little children.” – my self-sacrifice for them.

 

I don’t know if that was very smart of me to have a kind of deal with God in such a way but I did it anyway.

 

I reached home without using my spare cash that a while ago I was thinking to give. After 2 weeks since that one fateful day, the whole family received big good news from my uncle. A property that we wanted to sell got a buyer. The property was appraised at a very large value amounting to 7 figures. Everyone was very happy, in fact my mom came up with a plan how we could better use the money for business. I was also told that I am going to have substantial share which I decided to use to infuse more capital in my own business. The entire family packed to leave for Manila as the proper papers and payouts will be done there. Everyone was in a festive mood. Everything just seems to be perfect.

 

One morning, I woke up because a visitor came by. I was smiling meeting this visitor and told myself if I could only share to her my news today, I would love to. I looked at my mom but I could no longer see that distinct happiness in her eyes, although physically she was smiling at me. I knew that something was going wrong. I could not concentrate talking with my visitor as I was thinking about my mom’s peculiar reaction that morning. So when my visitor left, I ran through the stairs as fast as I could to the second floor. I saw my mom in one of the couches anxiously asking me to sit down. Without much ado, my mom broke to me heartbreaking news. My uncle lied to us. My world seems like crumbling left and right. I got this tunnel vision and before I may eventually pass out I snapped myself back in and told myself to settle down as I don’t want to let my mom see how devastated I was. I know she was also going through a difficult undertaking so no matter how hard I want to shout, it just couldn’t do it (at least not in front of my mom).

 

After consoling each other, I went back to my room and knelled down to pray. The first thing I asked God was, “Why God why?” “How could you let this happen to us?” “How could you give us hope and left us hanging after?” My questions seem endless until after pouring out my emotions to God, I remembered my pledge in the bus. I asked God that time to give my next big blessing to these children since I did not give my Php500 when I was asked to give it away. I then told God, if this is the reason why my big blessing did not push through, then I hope you’ll help my family heal from this daunting test. I asked forgiveness too that my family got involved in this.

 

Last year about the same month, I went back to CDO again; I was really hoping to see those kids again and this time I will do what I was not able to do. I said that if I would just see them again, I will definitely recognize them. But I never saw not even a shadow of them.

 

However, I don’t know if was a coincidence but I was sitting in the bus terminal waiting for the next trip an old man sat beside me. A few minutes later an old man about 72 years old sat beside me. I talked to him and found out that he hadn’t eaten yet so I offered him a warm coffee & bread. He was very thankful and he shared to me some of his life’s experiences as if telling me that God has a wonderful plan for me. In about a few minutes, an old lady without denture, wrinkled skin and old brown dress passed by and smiled to me sweetly. It was smile like this lady got no problem at all. Though a bit shy to be rejected, I asked her to join us and offered her the same courtesy I gave to the old man. I noticed waiting passengers in that busy place was transfixed to the three of us. We talked for a few minutes and suddenly the old lady said thank you & when I turned back she was no longer there. I just can’t find her anywhere so I just decided not to mind it. After a few minutes I told the old man that my bus is about to leave I said goodbye. Going to the bus, I realized I have not even asked for his name so I turned back to asked even his first name. And again, the old guy was nowhere to be found.

 

Now that I am already sitting in the moving bus, I told God how good He is. I comprehended that in my pursuit to find the little boy and girl a year ago in my previous trip, God gave me 2 old people instead. This time, I got a chance not only to offer them kindness but to talk to them as well.

 

Still in the bus, I got this reflection:

  1. If you would ever have a deal with God, be sure of it and take it seriously because God will also take your offers and sacrifices seriously.
  2. Do not forget to be human. And being human also means to have the ability to give back and share. If you don’t do that, do not wonder if your life will be lonely because we are all called to share.
  3. We do not own anything that we have right now, we are only stewards of the bounty of God. Allow yourself to become a channel of His blessings to other people.
  4. If you were asked to share, shut off all the “what ifs”. If God would ask you to do something, He will empower you to do it too.
  5. Be kind to everyone you meet.
  6. You can talk to God anywhere, even in a moving bus.
  7. If you ever did make a genuine sacrifice to anyone, take heart because God will reward you in secret.
  8. We may not know, but the stranger we met might be an Angel. Be a good host of Angels. (Hebrew 13:2)
  9. Let good use you anytime as a vessel of grace for other people.
  10. God is a Rewarder. Any good deeds you do, comes back to you as a reward.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Learn the Alphabet for Success

Posted: August 11, 2013 in Love
photo credit: google

photo credit: google

 

  • A   –  Action
  • B   –  Belief
  • C   –  Commitment
  • D   –  Direction
  • E   –  Enthusiasm
  • F   –  Faith
  • G   –  Goals
  • H   –  Happiness
  • I     –  Inspiration
  • J    –  Judgment
  • K   –  Knowledge
  • L   –  Love
  • M  –  Motivation
  • N   –  Noncorformity
  • O   –  Obedience
  • P   –  Persistence
  • Q   –  Quality
  • R   –  Righteousness
  • S   –  Steadfastness
  • T   –  Thankfulness
  • U   –  Uniqueness
  • V   –  Vision
  • W  –  Wisdom
  • X   –  (E)xellence
  • Y   –  Yieldedness
  • Z   –  Zeal

 

 

Source: An Enemy Called Average by John Mason 

photo credit: google

photo credit: google

 

You don’t need to do anything else for God to begin to use you now. You don’t have to read another paperback book, listen to another cassette tape, memorize another scripture, plant another seed gift, or repeat another creed or confession. You don’t even need to attend another service before God will begin to make use of you.

God uses willing vessels, not brimming vessels. Throughout the Bible, in order to fulfill His plans for the earth, God used many people from all walks of life. He used:

 

  1. Mathew, a government employee, who became an apostle.
  2. Gideon, a common laborer, who became a valiant leader of man.
  3. Jacob, a deceiver, whose name became Israel.
  4. Deborah, a housewife, became a Judge.
  5. Moses, a stutterer, who became a deliverer.
  6. Jeremiah, a child, who fearlessly spoke the Word of the Lord.
  7. Aaron, a servant, who became God’s spokesman.
  8. Nicodemus, a Pharisee, who became a defender of the faith.
  9. David, a shepherd boy, who became a King.
  10. Hosea, a marital failure, who prophesied to save Israel.
  11. Joseph, a prisoner, who became prime minister.
  12. Esther, an orphan, who became a queen.
  13. Elijah, a homely man, who became a mighty prophet.
  14. Joshua, an assistant, who became a conqueror.
  15. James and John, fishermen, who became close disciples of Christ and were known as “sons of thunder”.
  16. Abraham, a nomad, who became a father of many nations.
  17. Peter, a businessman, who became the rock on which he build His Church.
  18. Jacob, a refugee, who became the Father of the 12 tribes of Israel.
  19. John the Baptist, a vagabond, who became the forerunner of Jesus.
  20. Mary, an unknown virgin, who gave birth to the son of God.
  21. Nehemiah, a cupbearer, who built the wall of Jerusalem.
  22. Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, Hebrew exiles, who became great leaders of the nation of Babylon.
  23. Hezekiah, a son of an idolatrous father, who became a king known for doing right in the sight of the Lord.
  24. Isiah, a man of unclean lips, who prophesied the birth of God’s Messiah.
  25. Paul, a perpetrator, who became the greatest missionary in history and author of two-thirds in the New Testament.

All God needs to use is in you.

Source: An Enemy Called Average by John Mason