Posts Tagged ‘forgiveness’

The last 2 Christmases were not so good to me. Not so good in a way that my experiences were specifically daunting. Year 2011, just two months before Christmas, I saw my company’s performance dwindling down. God knows how I tried to save it but it seems like every action that I do comes to no avail. There were still many things that I tried doing to save it but I kept it secret from my team. I thought, by doing that, I can cushion them from the headache of getting financed by just having them to focus on ramping-up our sales, but unfortunately even that, we missed. The uphill climb was tracked by me alone.

I have learned that being a leader, as someone who is on top of the organizational hierarchy is truly a very lonely place. A lot of people think that it was full of glee for having gregarious environment all around you… but my experience will tell me it is the exact opposite. You make decisions that are general in scope, and yet you could expect it will not be taken lightly. And at the time when you need all the strength and encouragement you can get, you find yourself in the middle of the mire where everyone is ganging up against you. One single life-changing, career-aligning decision will move your subordinates to crucify you many times over even if you know your heart bleeds of the decision you have to make of closing the very company you love. Blame, hate, false accusations and digital effluvia were just a few things I endured. Nonetheless, in all this, I choose to stay mum and reserved.

In the heyday of my success and wealth, I have 100 friends BUT in the valley of my loss and poverty, I would be lucky if I have 5 that remembers. 

Year 2012, I am filled with hope. I thought that things are beginning to turn-around. But every door of opportunity I knock on, were two doors shunning down. I lost a big amount of money from an investment scam. I was literally swimming with debt. I didn’t know what to do. Fear overran me. Depression intends to claim my life. Extreme loneliness and pain were a meal every morning. The feeling was unbelievably crippling and paralyzing.

In my deepest pain, I turned to God and God is good indeed.

This year, 2013, God has restored me. He healed all my pain. He taught me how to forgive myself for the unwise decision I made. He touched my heart to forgive others and give them more love. God opened my eyes that I never lost my talents and abilities. God shook away my pride and replaced it with humility. God renewed my mind. God did not only make me happy but assured me of joy. God remove my doubt and offered me faith.

Then as I begin to realize how my pain made all sense, fear melted away from my sight. Fear transformed into love, courage and forgiveness. I come to know that I really never feared my darkness. I feared my light. Because deep inside I know, that when I set mind unto something, I can turn it into something great – so great that I may not have a ready aptitude and audacity to handle it.

God slowly opened door after doors of opportunity. My career and purpose were now affirmed, my entrepreneurial ideas were sharper than ever and my knowledge in finance like stock market and money market instruments were honed. I met new mentors in different fields. I have learned new things I wish I knew earlier. I met new friends that uplift my worth and affirm my expertise.

I can no longer visit my past with blame and guilt but with authentic gratitude for the many lessons it has counseled me with.

I discovered that the greatest gift I have ever received is LOVE and the greatest gift I have ever given is FORGIVENESS.

This Christmas… the Christmas where the Lord became my fortress, strength and my friend is a Christmas of VICTORY, EMPOWERMENT, FORGIVENESS and LOVE.

This is what this Christmas means to me.

May you have a greatly blessed Christmas too.

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I would like to believe that anger is a perfectly valid emotion. This means to say that, we all have right to be angry at a certain point of time. There are several reasons why we get angry as there are stages whereby our anger could escalate to. Depending on what is done to you and how you were affected by it physically or emotionally, our anger can intensify from a mild irritation to intense fury or rage. And if you cannot control it, you can do unthinkable damage to yourself and to others. But you have to keep in mind that no regret comes before the feeling of anger. Because if you cannot control anger; your anger will control you.

The good news is anger can be controlled.

Although not all people can do this, there is hope that we can control how we respond to this perfectly valid emotion. Either you get a gun and shot your offender, or think about it in a loving way that maybe you have contributed to his outburst, defines your ways of responding to anger. Anger can be suppressed and can be redirected by focusing your attention to something positive.

When you squeeze an orange, you do not expect to find an apple juice. In other words, you will know what you are really made of by the time somebody provokes you. If you respond with aggression more than love, it spells the kind of a person you are. Hence, I believe that this is the best philosophical explanation as to why anger should exist in the world.

We all feel it and that’s one emotion that makes us human. But holding on to anger is poison. Imagine we all have a heap of coal in our hearts. This represents our instinctive dark responses towards an aggression. Everytime you are triggered by unfair doings, gossips, flagitious schemes, oppressive advances, physical threat; your anger lit a fire to burn your coal. And if you are not too careful, a once little flame could grow into a smoldering fire. It scorches your life force. It steals your joy. It causes you uncontrollable stress. It breaks your vision. It fills you with discontent. It pollutes your mind with vengeance. It kills your peace. It aged you quickly. It clouds your thoughts with nothing but ill-wishes. It destroys your relationship even to those who have nothing to do with your pain. It makes you irritable. It plants a time bomb in your heart waiting to explode. It is a poison to your life, your dreams, and your purpose and even to people around you.

You are guilty of posting a Facebook status announcing to the word that if only hurtful words and evil imaginations could kill, your offender could have long been dead. Actually, you are right! But the first casualty is YOU. Every evil thought you think; every harsh word you speak; and every hurtful actions you do, the Universe will hold you accountable for it one day. And while you are embattling with bitterness, resentments and insecurities, for all you know, your so called “enemy” is busy improving his careers, taking a great vacation and living a good life. Let go. Move on. 

Nobody may understand how badly hurt you have been. But you can begin to understand the purpose of your pain.

Anger is just anger. It is neutral. It’s neither good nor bad. What you do with it makes all the difference. You could either use it to build yourself by fulfilling your dreams or you can spend more time nurturing it and destroying yourself in the process. The right choice rest upon you.

Do yourself a favor, let go and forgive. Anger is poison but forgiveness is a sweet perfume. 

Let me share to you a beautiful quote by one of my favorite authors, Dr. Steve Maraboli.

“Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghost of the yesterday. Holding a grudge and harboring anger/ resentment is a poison to the soul. Get even with people…but not those who have hurt us, forget them, instead get even with those who have helped us.”

– Steve Maraboli, Life the Truth and being Free

 

The world is truly saddened for the loss of a true passionate leader who had helped changed the world – Nelson Mandela.

Even in the confines of his own cell, Nelson Mandela’s incarceration for 27 years by smashing apartheid in his home country (South Africa) had paved the way to bring balance in the scale of social equality. Discrimination and many other social injustices were exposed in the eyes of the world causing an awakening in humanity’s desire for egalitarianism that shaped the succeeding generation’s consciousness for social justice.

To pay homage to Mandela’s legacy, I have collected what I consider as his 10 most powerful quotes. 

 

1. “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.”

2. “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear but the triumph over it. The brave man is not that he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”

3. “There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling a life that is less than you are capable of living.”

4. “We must use time wisely and forever realize that the time is always right to do it.”

5. “Money won’t create success. The freedom to make it will.”

6. “There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.” 

7. “Courageous people do not fear of forgiving, for the sale of peace.” 

8. “A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.” 

9. “It always seems impossible until it’s done. “

10. “As I walked out the door to the gate that will lead to my freedom, I knew that if I didn’t leave my hatred and bitterness behind, I’d still be in prison.” 

Sages would advise that gratitude is the key towards receiving more. As you all know, nobody would want to be around an ungrateful fellow. We can surely thank every material thing we receive but it is more wonderful to recognize most profound gifts of life as given by people we know and even by those we do not expect.

Please take time to call, SMS or email both amazing and unusual people that had touched your life strangely this year.

  1. People who makes us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our life blossom.
  2. People who turned us down; they are life’s traffic aids preventing us to go the wrong way so we’d land at a purpose driven life.
  3. People who counseled us with sound advice; they are the microphones of God from heaven motivating us to make wise decisions.
  4. People who caused you pain; they are the blacksmiths pounding your character to let you know what you are really made of.
  5. People who always keep you company; they are our guardian angels in disguise that make our day flow easy.
  6. People who left us in times of need; they are arbitrators of relationships who tells us how to choose loyal friends next time.
  7. People who asked for our forgiveness; they are agents of humility that restore our broken trust so we can heal our broken spirit.
  8. People who we call as our family; they are our spiritual homes where we can run for safety in times of defeat and pain.

     

     

 

Imagine each day that you are allotted with $100 worth of energy. This energy flows from your energy circuit source like the water in your shower falling on top of your head dripping up to your toes in your whole body. Every energy circuit wired in your energetic anatomy does not only flow and stays within your cells but even to your environment, past or set goals in the future. Like a monetary investment, the energy that you finance at something should come back to you with interest – with benefits for your growth and your well-being.

 

How you spend your energy each day has a direct effect in your body.

 

This means to say that if you finance 90% of your energy thinking about your past experiences or bewildering unforgiving ideas towards someone (who may well be enjoying a great holiday on the beach), you cause yourself to borrow energy from what is stored in your body. This manifest to you by having sudden headaches, backpains or neckpains through solely sitting down and thinking your unresolved hates of the past.

 

If you want to grow as a healthy person, you have to remember that good health does not start in a platter of healthy diet but with positive thoughts that create a healthy mindset.

 

A healthy person has the ability to visit the past and not live there. He must have the ability to go back in the past with a sense of gratitude, of learning symbolic reasons as to why things happened in his life the way they did and the way they are.

 

If your energy is hooked in the past that doesn’t serve you anymore, learn to detach from it so you can summon your energy back for a more beneficial use. You have to establish a conscious effort to spend your energy only at things that contributes to your purpose, goal and character.